I have to admit. It wasn't until my 30's that I finally admitted to the full value in life coaching. And then it would be some time beyond that until I finally gave myself permission to invest in myself in this way. I was stubborn. I wanted to figure it out all on my own through books and various workshops and classes around town. That stuff undoubtedly changed my life and definitely put me on the path to self actualization. But it took about ten years to do - and of course, the process is never fully done. Coaching can accelerate all of that. It can make miracles happen and big changes can happen within a fraction of the time.
But I get it.
Coaching is pricey. It's time consuming. It's even scary sometimes. It's fast paced. Maybe faster than you're ready for.
For those of you not ready to take that leap of working with a coach yet - or even if you are working with one - here's my current list of book recommendations for getting closer to being your best, authentic self.
#10: Braving the Wilderness - Brené Brown.
Who doesn't love a Brené Brown book? There are a lot of them and sometimes it's easy to get Brene-d out. But she's a queen and this book is everything right now in a divided country. Be brave and be willing to stand alone in your truth.
#9: Playing Big: Find Your Voice, Your Mission, Your Message - Tara Mohr
Wow! Get the Audible version and you have your own personal coach on demand! Well kind of. Of course it's not going to be exactly custom to you BUT so much of what Mohr talks about is relevant to many of us - especially young professional women! The future is FOR SURE female if Tara Mohr has anything to do with it.
#8: You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life - Jen Sincero
Many of you have already read this book - I'm sure of it! But if you haven't, do it. Now. So practical. So funny. So real. I recommend her other book You Are a Badass at Making Money: Master the Mindset of Wealth too for any of you who ever ever said things like "money corrupts", "I am terrible with money", "money doesn't grow on trees", etc., etc., etc. Basically there's a real good chance you are carrying around your parent's beliefs about money...which may or may not be a good thing.
#7: The Wisdom Of Sundays: Life Changing Insights from Super Soul Conversations - Oprah & Others
Ok, so basically anything Oprah does, I'm pretty much an automatic fan. That being said, this book transcends so much beyond her. She, being the queen and genius she is, got a whole bunch of modern sages and premier thought leaders on spirituality, social justice, self actualization, psychology and more together for her Super Soul series. This book is the best of the best of her Super Soul. Do yourself a favor and get the Audible version so you can hear Oprah and other thought leaders speaking. Then do yourself another favor and get the full length books of all these people you fall in love with in this compilation.
#6: Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy - Sheryl Sandberg
So much realness here. So much rawness. Whether you're dealing with grief over the loss of a loved one or the loss of a job, a house, a dream...this book is worth your time. Sheryl Sandberg is like the older sister we wish we all had.
#5: Better than Before: Mastering the Habits of Our Everyday Lives - Gretchen Rubin
From the same author who brought us the gem, The Happiness Project, Rubin uses this book to first teach us about four personality types that exist when it comes to habits. By learning your personality type, you will know better what sets you up for success in habit creation. It turns out I'm a "questioner" - you'll have to read the book to find out what that means. Check out her new book which expands on this concept even more: The Four Tendencies. Rubin and her sister also have an excellent podcast much worth your time.
#4: How to Be Here: A Guide to Creating a Life Worth Living - Rob Bell
We can always leave it to Rob Bell to give us quirky stories, compelling analogies/metaphors and just an all around entertaining ride anytime you hear him speak or read a book of his. It was this book that I first learned the term "ikigai" or your "reason for being". And, well...I now have a business centered around the concept. You just never know where your next piece of inspiration that might change the course of your life will come from.
#3: The Four Agreements - don Miguel Ruiz
This is such a gem of a book. So simple and yet so profound. Why are these four agreements so difficult to follow? They should be so easy right? Nope. But I can tell you one thing: I write these "four agreements" down in my calendar every single week because they are so important and I want to be reminded to live in this way everyday. What are these "four agreements" you ask? Read the book. :-)
#2: Loving What Is: Four Questions that Can Change Your Life - Byron Katie
OK, I'm not going to sugar coat it. This book is challenging. The concepts are tough. It feels like I am in The Twilight Zone sometimes with the concepts. Or like it's Opposite Day at school. If you want to rewire your brain and completely challenge your worldview, check out this book or Bryon's other resources. "Is it true?" will start running through your brain constantly.
#1:Self - Therapy: Transform Stuck Parts of Yourself Into Inner Resources of Strength, Love and Freedom
Hello, Inner Critic! Hello, Inner Child! Hello, parts of myself I didn't know existed. Whoah! The brain is a complicated, beautiful thing and you're going to learn a lot more about it and yourself in this book. If you find yourself saying, "A part of me wants this, another part of me wants..." then this book is for you.You'll want to get the Audible version of this one as it's packed full of guided meditations.
And that is my list! I realized recently I reached "scholar" level on Audible which means I have spent 14 days, 4 hours and 18 minutes of my life listening to Audio books. You saw that right -- over 14 DAYS. And I'm well on my way to "Master" level (in addition to the stack of hard copy books I am reading). Stay tuned for more lists to help you in your self coaching - you know I will come up with plenty more for you!
What book changed your life? Leave a comment below.